creativity = inspiration + elaboration

I am catching up with 1000s of articles in my reader. Might blog some of the interesting ones and if I am enthused totally to blog. People who have subscribed to me know that I blog in the ‘flow’ :-) Guess blogging is 25% inspiration and 75% elaboration once you are in the zone. Anyway some notes from the article on “Creativity: Whats the big idea?” below (I can relate to it very well being bipolar!)

Creative people do, however, intuitively know the value of alternating the rhythms of work: when to let the mind wander, when to get down to hard work and when to put a problem on the back burner and leave the subconscious to mull it over…

Time out feeds the quietness of mind that is essential to creativity.

… Colin Martindale, professor of psychology at the University of Maine, conducted tests on what he calls the ‘inspiration and elaboration phases’ of the creative process. That is the ability to be receptive to ideas and inspiration, and then to be able to focus and work on those ideas…

It is not impossible to learn how to be more creative. Experiments have shown that just by encouraging people to relax, you can increase the number of ideas that they come up with. Certain forms of meditation are effective as a means of learning how to enter a creative mental state – one that is relaxed and receptive but also awake and alert.

Essentially, creativity is all about learning to listen to the unconscious and being able to cultivate that relaxed and alert time that is typical of meditation and dreaming. Very creative people may be able to do this intuitively, but it is important to realise that we were all born with creative minds.

ways to reduce stress

Being bipolar has made me realize that I need to manage stress at an optimum level for my own good. More than threshold and I freak out; less than a particular there ain’t any chemicals kick me to me creative (loose interest in life

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Came across 52 ways to reduce stress and I am just highlighting the ones I totally relate to and think are implortant (my comments):

  1. Don’t rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc (Getting Things done technique – I am yet to read the book!)
  2. Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant. (A mobile with GPRS connection comes handy in here!)
  3. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet. (Increase the amount of water you drink – have half a bottle especially when you come to office)
  4. Relax your standards. The world will not end if the grass doesn’t get mowed this weekend. (Don’t be a perfectionist all the time)
  5. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (SLOW DOWN!)
  6. Say “No!” Saying “no” to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don’t have the time or energy for takes practice, self-respect, and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone
  7. Turn “needs” into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don’t get attached to preferences
  8. Simplify, simplify, simplify. . . (Try your best ;-) )
  9. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts (This really helps! Believe me …)
  10. Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are. Put things away where they belong and you won’t have to go through the stress of losing things (I have reached OCD levels on this :P )
  11. Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective (start a BLOG like this one! 65% of blogs started are for therapuetic reasons – thats a fact!!)
  12. Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help clear your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving. (Join Support GROUPS – my 100 odd sessions at Bipolar Supports Groups really healped in lots of ways)
  13. Every day, do something you really enjoy (Life is short)
  14. Do something for somebody else (Stop being self-centered – somebody is gotta need your help!)
  15. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are fine to compromise upon. (Have buffer time!!)
  16. Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If your work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. (Everbody needs a change)
  17. Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do (Focus – drop you IM, mobile especially!)
  18. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world (To Err is HUMAN!)

Perplexed Abhay
The ones I want to do but I am far or getting there (my comments):

  1. Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning. The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful (I just cannot do it!)
  2. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (Consider using a Voice Mail)
  3. Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed (I hate some automated machine reminding me when to get up aargh!)
  4. One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don’t accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don’t associate with people who love to talk politics, etc. (my work life is not in order need to sort it out!)
  5. Learn to live one day at a time (I am aiming to live for the moment – may be my aim is too high)
  6. Allow yourself time – everyday – for privacy, quiet, and introspection (Treat yourself – you are the most important person! Everything is else is secondary)
  7. Have an optimistic view of the world. Believe that most people are doing the best they can (I am still trying my best on that!)

Other things I would suggest:

  1. Take a Break – Go travelling or Go indulge in some kewl ethnic food => breaking awaya helps you put things in perspective
  2. Spend time with people you care – you draw in positive energy from them
  3. Reflect and see if you are living your life in line with your priorities!

God of little things!
South India on wheels

pursuit of happiness

Dan Gilbert talks about ” The (misguided) pursuit of happiness” (TEDTalks) – found it at google video. Nice video to look at. He talks about ‘synthetic happiness’ vs ‘natural hapiness’ – he kind of blames our unhappiness on the way we have managed the frontal lobe i.e visual cortex or the ‘experience simulator’ in our life!

Video kind of in a way explains about arranged / love marriages, dating and divorces :-) how come east seems to be doing better than the west (atleast in terms of relationship ;-) :-) )!!

Patterns in life

I have been writing about my views on life lately and this thought has been there for almost 5 months. Does one’s life have a pattern? Is life a locus (matehmatically speaking!) ? i.e are we living life with a set of inherent rules? If so, can we change these rules and patterns forcibly to lead a more happier, satisfied life? Can we holistically put these patterns into boxes and adjust the measures of each pattern so that we feel more succesful at a particular period in life?

A Metaphor here would be a quest for Life’s Graphic/Music Equalizer.
Turn the Bass UP, Treble LOW and Mid Tones UP and voila you have the right mixture ;-)

Q1. Why did I start thinking of ‘Patterns in Life’?

The last 3 years have been personally a challenging time for me – coping with my Bipolar disorder. The moment I think I have understood my health problem, my brain has has stumped my subjective self everytime. Almost to the point of losing my self confidence, self esteem and even seriously questioning the point of existence. I realized that depending on how I felt – I had to change my life such that I don’t excarbate my health problem. If I got lucky answering whether there were patterns in life – bulk of my issues would get solved. 90% of the time getting the question right itself solves the issue! (find another view here)

Q2. Why are S curves important wrt life (Optimization vs Innovation) ?

I am not sure if all of you are aware of S-Curves and their uses. I learnt about them during my Bachelors when I was studying Mechanical Engineering. Its a very well known curve in any sciences. You start out on a concept – keep refining the concept and optimizing it so that it grows and grows. Initially when the concept is new – growth is slow, then it increases, peaks and finally the growth rate slows down (Optimization). Meanwhile, a new concept comes along that solves the problem and it takes over the previous concept (Innovation). And the change from one S-curve to another is discontinuous, radical and mostly to an efficient system.

Coming to the relevancy of S-curve to post title. Everybody’s life goes through phases. I believe each phase is a S-curve. A detailed discussion of this thought and extension of this idea can itself go through series of post ;-) Now that is a matter of conversation over a cuppa tea / coffee or voice chat session.

I have a small whiteboard in my house and I started noting down the patterns from June 2006. I put a picture up on that white board on Flickr and asked for suggestions and that didn’t help much. Now, After close to 6 odd months I am making a blogpost of it – hoping people agree or disagree with my thoughts. I have learnt to look at life in perspective (not only mine) and observe patterns in behaviors. Lets see where it goes. Click on the photo to see earlier comments

paradigm of life

Q3. What are the Patterns in Life?

I don’t think I have cracked the quest for it. My search lead me to lots of thoughts and books. Came to the conclusion that the great minds behind Mathematics, Quantum Physics, Genetics, String Theory are in a way trying to answer a similar question. The difference I am try to formulate simpler rules to help my ‘WAY OF LIVING’ in the present i.e NOW while others are looking at equations and chemicals :-)

Intuitively I feel there are seven main patterns. I have not been able to find that many – so that means the list is not complete and I hope you folks will help me fill it. I will try to illustrate with some examples at all points. I am sure you willbe able to fill in with your own rich exprience. You can think of the different point to be independent of one another. Is just like you have the Bass and Treble too! If something goes really missing – then the music feels odd!!

1. Randomness leads to Creation

2a. Perfection or Optimization improves growth

2b. Discipline aids aceeleration of growth or improved agility

2c. Reflection/Feedback depending on how much and what type (positive or negative) may lead to amplication, resonance, dampening or equilibrium.

2d. Reaction leads to equilibrium, diffusion and exchange of energy.

3. Simplicity of rules/concepts improves in Clarity

4. Structure/Order provides Beauty/Strength.

5. Shock leads to Awakening. Changes the perspective of how someone see life. Its the ‘aha’, ‘nirvana’ moment!

6. Collective Conciousness – the interaction of the inner self with the outside world (Friends, Family, Others). Relationships one shares with the outside world – an interactive world. You influence others and others influence you. Its a convuluted function of interactions – is this what everyone calls Maya?

7. Emotions – yes I am putting emotions in a box. We might have to decide sometimes how much human we are going to be :-) Believe me I have had medicines to influence this – some of them can make you stoic & feel like a rock. Things that fit in here – due to lack of clarity will be passion, motivation, attitude, deattachment, forgiveness, love, freedom & hope.

8. Miscelleneous – Truth, Time i.e mystery of future, and many more things. What is the MATRIX? :D The blue pill or the Red pill! Follw the Rabbit hole Neo …

Its possible that I am wrong in somethings and right in most of the things. Do let me know. Time is 1:30 am and I am in the mood to sleep – example can wait for another time.

Some of the things that are inherently covered in these patterns in Life I have mentioned about: How a LASER works, Mutation, Meditation, Ying n Yang – duality in nature etc.

Next questions I hope to soon answer in the upcoming posts are:

Q4. Where I want to be or what I want to do? i.e how do I want my life’s equalizer to look :-)

Q5. What will be my focus areas and what I would like to improve!

Finishing this post with a thought related to music and patterns:

Music existed long before Humankind agreed that there were 7 basic fundamental notes!

I am talking of something similar. We need something to understand the way we lead lives else its going to be a constant struggle & in that process we are going to miss living and enjoying the present!

success = failure?

Currently I just feel Success and Failuredepends on how you define things! Whether you look at it from a oconvex lens or a concave lens :-) Leaving you behind with two quotes related to success and failure.

If A equals success, then the formula is: A = X + Y + Z, X is to work. Y is to play. And Z is keep your mouth shut. – Albert Einstein

I don’t agree with Einstein on the Z part. I think Z = Passion

Failure is not when you fall down, it is when you don’t get up again. – Anonymous.

Remember most people think FAILURE = Not being Succesful {by the way, never the other way around :P}. Sometimes what you learn from the Failure – can itself be what Success is!

Try to make every experience – be it good or shitty – a learning experience. Life is best openbook you can have. Main challenge is in definig what is success, happiness and satisfaction for you. And at the core of it is passion for living and doing things is what I believe. Never let the fire in the belly to be extinguished!

Many times life puts challenges before you. You tend to loose hope. Channel the negative energy i.e angry , frustation and disappointments in the right way! And sometimes taking time off to reflect on what you have done may be the right solution. Sometimes, when the going gets tough you got to get the tough get going! How you react is based on personality and environment around you.

DEFINE SUCCESS for you at different times differently and KEEP LEARNING from FAILUREs. But NEVER LOOSE the ENTHUSIASM. Life is Beautiful and too SHORT to drop things away.

Finishing the post with Boyzone song: When the going gets tough
{One of my favourite songs :-) }

I got something to tell you
I got something to say
I’m gonna put this dream in motion
Never let nothing stand in my way

When the going gets tough
The tough gets going

I’m gonna get myself ‘cross the river
That’s the price I’m willing to pay
I’m gonna make you stand and deliver
And give me love in the old-fashioned way

I’m gonna buy me a one-way ticket
Nothing’s gonna hold me back
Your love’s like a slow train coming (slow train coming)
And I feel it coming down the track (woah)

I’ll climb any mountain
I’ll do anything


Eckhart Tolle in his new book A NEW EARTH says:

…look upon flowers as the enlightenment of plants.

Any life-form in any realm – mineral, vegetable, animal or human – can be said to undergo “enlightenment.” It is, however, an extremely rare occurrence since it is more than an evolutionary progression: It implies a discontinuity in its development, a leap to an entirely different level of Being and, most important, a lessening of materiality.

Since time immemorial, flowers, crystals, precious stones, and birds have held special significance for the human spirit … attributed to their ethereal quality.

I simply relate to these words blissfully. I am like ‘wow’! This is it how I feel about my life.

I think this kind of discontinuity is what happened to be when I had an episode of manic depression and subsequently learning to cope with my bipolar disorder over the last 2 to 3 years!

To me, it meant a leap towards being a different person, living life in a different way!

The book seems like a lucid spiritual writing and I think its going to be a good one.

Flow @ Life 2.0

To me, living life with the FLOW, seems to be the only thing that keeps me going. I find it less stressful (hence keeps my health in track :-) ) , keeps me creative and more importantly happy! Having lived my life like this for almost a decade – I have decided I am going to stick to this kind of being. The choice to come back to India pick up a 40K p.m job after quitting a $6kp.m US job was part of the flow thing. Doesn’t make sense at the first thought, but believe me I have Zilch regrets in fact sometimes happier I made the move believing my intuition!!

This attitude towards life is something my parents especially my Dad is totally against or can’t understand. But somehow it seems to be the only way of living for me that has worked. Life 2.0 has a post Finding Flow by Letting Go that explains what I have been having difficulty in explaining, quoting certain lines from the post (mostly for my use :D – when I argue with my Dad! ;-) )

This is the first of three posts that look at a more serendipitous and effective way of being in this world. This first post looks at the ‘flow state’, the second at how to ‘follow our bliss’, and the third looks at an effortless way of ‘problem solving’. I’ve put them together because the three ideas are inextricably linked.Many would scoff at this idea … It speaks of the process of life as being simply an unmasking of our true, loving and miraculously creative nature….. that life’s one loving purpose is for us to be happy……and not at some point in the future, or after we had achieved or learnt something but right now…. by just following our bliss and stop defending ourselves against what we ‘think’ is hapenning around us and let our intuition, our inner knowing, be our interpreter and guide.

‘Flow’ is a state that arises from non-resistance and happens, funnily enough, when we allow ourselves to go with the flow of events and use each circumstance as another wave to surf, by seeing and accepting the gift it brings. All the planning we need do is be clear about what we want and stay open and receptive to receive the gifts that serendipitously flow our way when we follow the path of whatever it is that makes us happy, and start to trust in our Self as guide.

I know it seems a weird idea that our safety, happiness and comfort could lie in the unknown, in defencelessly letting go into the flow of events that fill each day, but once we do let go, once we let all things be exactly as they are and start to relax, then those things happening around us start to take on a different light. We begin to see that in choosing to call life friend that is what it becomes to us, and that is what we see reflected back to us in everything we look upon….. because this is what we have chosen.

We are not and never have been powerless; and we can live this life in perfect health, safety and happinness without defence of any kind. Life itself teaches us this when we choose to let go of our need to control our days and trust the flow to lift us free. You may think I’m a hopeless dreamer, but if you are one of those brave souls that’s become tired of clinging and chosen to ‘let go’ you’ll quickly find you’re not alone.

I hope I meet you there!

overcoming fear of death

Its been another night of sleepless activity, erractic sleep patterns – an outcome of  my health problem – Bipolar Disorder. My Bipolar disorder problem has challenged me over the last couple of years in many ways. Being someone who mostly looks at the positive side things – I have a decent list on how bipolar disorder has helped me understand life better. Will elaborate on the list sometime later but the main thing I have learnt from my health problem (apart from Empathy) is:

Overcoming the Fear of Death

You feel that you have reached a nirvana kind of state once you no longer fear death. Your attitude towards life changes. The thought that today might be your last day really changes the perspective with which you live your life. You begin to understand the POWER of NOWliving in the present, not let the past and future bother you.
You stop living someone else’s life and start doing things you like.

Last 3 years were mentally and physically very very tough for me. Experiencing a emotional roller coaster was a whole new ball game for me. Having had 2 major episodes of Depression, one full blown Mania in quick succession took a toll out of me. Now I have resorted to medicines and fortunately they seem to be working with an occasional question mark here and there.

I have screwed up lots of things in the process – burnt great relationships, hurt feelings and other crazy things. That I feel bad about and unfortunately sometimes guilty.

The worst part during the last 3 years was  – the constant feeling of suicide (I could logically think of no reason to commit one :-) IITM, Berkeley grad, nice job in US!, loving family – the girl friend par was missing :P ). One part of the brain was parallely telling to kill myself (50% of the time during the entire 3 years timeline!) and another part constantly telling you suck it in and fight it out. The mental determination needed to fight yourself almost at a daily basis and yet showing a smiling face to the outside world needed lot of stamina.

I have been doing okay this year. Therapy, Medicines and a decent support system is keeping me going. Guess, Hanging on to the end of the thread has its benefits. :-)

But I am still waiting for the passion to fire in me so that the life comes back to the smooth nature it was 3 to 4 years back before all this started! (Man those IIT days :D) Coming back to the focus of the post – I daily ask myself – do I enjoy what I am doing? Did I learn anything kewl today? Did I meet interesting people? If the answer is no for a week or so for all these questions I start thinking of changing my environment, otherwise I stop having fun and stress builds in my system and then my health gets affected.

Anyway, coming back to the title of the post – living life at the edge – has its own attitude. Some people see it as carefree, some look at my behaviour as arrogant some inspiring. Rajesh mentioned the book “Goal-Free Living” in his blog and thats when it occured – thats what I have been living lately. And Life seems some adventures and rewarding – the parameters for happier life have changed! Guess what I haven’t even defined Success in my current phase. :-)  Right now the equation seems to be:

Being Happy + live with people I care = Success

Believe me,  living with the attitude as Robert De Niro says in the movie HEAT

“Don’t let yourself get attached to anything, you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat, if you feel the heat around the corner.”

What do ya say?

Creativity & Contraints

Kathy writes another lovely post titled: How to make something amazing, right now!

I would ask everyone to read the entire post and I am sure anyone who has been invovled in the act of being creative will appreciate the point she highlights in its. Couple of sites see mentions are and . These sites are for constrained novel writing (a month) and contrained film making (24 hours)! Some quotes from the post:

The kamikaze approach forces you to lower your expectations, take risks, and write on the fly…Make no mistake: You will be writing a lot of crap. And that’s a good thing. By forcing yourself to write so intensely, you are giving yourself permission to make mistakes. To forgo the endless tweaking and editing and just create.

Another quote she has from a constraint-driven cooking perspective, the Tastingmenu blog :

Unlimited freedom in fact negates creativity and creates laziness. The lack of  rules or constraints make it easy to be random… Freedom often kills focus.

And from Marissa Ann Mayer’s BusinessWeek article Creativity Loves Constraints:
“Constraints shape and focus problems and provide clear challenges to overcome. Creativity thrives best when constrained.”

Finally she mentions how constraints should be balanced!

“But constraints must be balanced with a healthy disregard for the impossible. Too many curbs can lead to pessimism and despair. Disregarding the bounds of what we know or accept gives rise to ideas that are non-obvious, unconventional, or unexplored. The creativity realized in this balance between constraint and disregard for the impossible is fueled by passion and leads to revolutionary change.

I have seen things one month movie and even a 24 hrs movie being taken in the Tamil Cinema. Brainstorming, prototyping and executing the idea fast under constrains – I feel keeps you on the edge and the adrenalin running.

The best Strategy to have a agile mind and an innovative company! However, you should not let the stress get to your head. The trick is in maintaining the balance!
A problem I am always challenged with due to my bipolar disorder  too much freedom or free nature leads to boredom and hence depression; too much work leads to stress leading to mania. I gotta keep a continuous check on how and what I am doing :D

Bad Medicine …

Bad Medicine” By Bon Jovi

I ain’t got a fever got a permanent disease
It’ll take more than a doctor to prescribe a remedy
I got lots of money but it isn’t what I need
Gonna take more than a shot to get this poison out of me
I got all the symptoms count ‘em 1,2,3

Cure my disease

Bad, bad medicine
Bad, bad medicine

I don’t need no needle
To be giving me a thrill
And I don’t need no anesthesia
Or a nurse to bring a pill
I got a dirty down addiction
It doesn’t leave a track
I got a jone for your affection
Like a monkey on my back

There ain’t no paramedic
Gonna save this heart attack

When you need
That’s what you get for falling in love
Then you bleed
You get a little but it’s never enough
On your knees
That’s what you get for falling in love
Now I’m addicted and your kiss is the drug


miss close friends!

My last roomates at Berkeley were gem of a people :-) I do miss there company – just bloggin a mail I had sent to them when I was on the edge – feeling vulnerable! Have been cleaning my Inbox lately I am down to 20 ‘starred’ mails!! woot feels great.


Cleaning is definitely therapeutic especially online cleaning! And so is having supportive and understanding friends around you. Anyway life moves on – heres the mail.

Hey guys,

I started spending pretty badly again. So, I would be needing some
help from you folks. Firstly,  this is a clear indication that my
health is on the air again. I am listing some things that u folks may
have to watch out for and give me feedback ( in a nice way so that I
can accept them). I know its asking too much but would really
appreciate it.

Some of them are:

1. Just watch out for my spending
2. don’t take me to do shopping – grocery etc.
3. see if I am sleeping properly – atleast 6 to 7 hrs
4. I am not very talkative or irritable
5. I have also asked my uncle in pennsylvania to take my monies and
leave less than $500 in my a/c (the money he had given + …). So, if
I ask for money don’t give me!! (might sound funny but its serious)
Also I will be very convincing and give good explanations on why I
will need it but don’t give. And as I stressed – say that to me in a
nice way! ( If things continue to progress like this I will become
irritable hence..)
6. Don’t let me booze or smoke ( my tendency is very very high and I
am not supposed to do :-))
7. what else.. yeah see if I am taking my meds

I guess its askin for a lot. BUt I just want to hang on and make it thru……

aight more later,

whats your type?

I am a Generalist (8), Helper(7), Leader(5), Thinker(4) + Artist(4) – it sums me up pretty well!! :-) ;-) Check your self out at:

Here is a snapshot of me after the test:


Type 7: The Generalist. The enthusiastic, productive type.
Type 2: The Helper. The caring, nurturing type.
Type 8: The Leader. The powerful, aggressive type.
Type 4: The Artist. The intuitive, reserved type.
Type 5: The Thinker. The perceptive, cerebral type.

The pictorial representation for the top 3 types that represent me are: The positive and negative circle – I like this way of representing oneself. I am sure will definitely help me when i am depressed … mood swings due to my bipolarity!



bipolar podcasts

I just found these sets of great sites – which are having podcasts on bipolar disorder.

Well, the search started as I wanted or had an idea of making my own or shared podcasts. I miss support groups – there are none in Bombay for Bipolar atleast to my lnowledge! Just made a search to see if people are doing it. And Happy to say ‘yes’! I found two sites.

If you are not familiar with term podcast – do let me know.

In short its like a magazine/ radio show and you get a episode whenever there is a latest episode. Of course – you can download the mp3 directly from the website or subscribe as a show in iTunes.

Coming to the point – I would love start a podcast with people I know. And I would encourage to people to do (also indepently) I am mailing here to give a thought and whether they would like to join me. (gives me more motivation!)

The sites, I would recommend that you mail it to people you know and share it in the support groups. Somehow, i find the audio medium better! And helps to carry it around in your mp3 player!

These podcasts also come in video – so, you or I can carry in the new video (iPods :D )

Take care
PS: any followup questions don’t hesitate to contact me! … support is just a phone call way :)

never love your company!

Narayana Murthy says something that I have concluded personally but 2 out of 5 times struggle to make it practical! :-)

For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful :

1) Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2) Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3) Go home.
4) Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt,
play with your kids, etc.
5) Eat well and sleep well.

This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2. Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires ‘personal change’. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them. … Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.



Rev. Mary Manin Morrissey:

Listening is a high art of loving. Ask yourself, “When was the last
time I really listened to my child? My parent? My brother  or
sister?” When someone is ready to share, three magic words amplify
your connection, and they are: “Tell me more.”

I relate to this completely. I have benefited a lot by people listening to me … just listening to me and its mostly possible by people who care for you and love you. I have learnt to talk and express myself in a better way so that people can help me and also I have also learnt the art of listening. Which in turn helps me help more people.

A quarter …

Check out the Birthday Calendar folks.
I turned 25 years as of yesterday – May 30, 2005 Just listing what the Birthday Calendar Script says for :-). Most of it is pretty true. Which one is not … I shall leave it for you to guess …

You entered: 5/30/1981

Your date of conception was on or about 6 September 1980 which was a Saturday.
You were born on a Saturday under the astrological sign Gemini.
Your Life path number is 9. { do check that out – pretty true and interesting}
You were born in the Chinese year of the Rooster.

As of 5/30/2006 3:39:23 PM EDT
You are 25 years old.
You are 300 months old. { I need to celebrate when its 365 months!! }
You are 1,305 weeks old.
You are 9,131 days old.
You are 219,159 hours old.
You are 13,149,579 minutes old.
You are 788,974,763 seconds old. { I need to celebrate when its $1 billion secs!! woof … }

Your age is the equivalent of a dog that is 3.57377690802348 years old. (Life’s just a big chewy bone for you!)

Your birthstone is Emerald The Mystical properties of Emerald

Though not meant to replace traditional medical treatment, Emerald is used for physical and emotional healing. { yeah, I badly need that! I am bipolar remember … }

Your birth tree is Ash Tree, the Ambition

Uncommonly attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with its fate, can be egoistic, very reliable and trustworthy, faithful and prudent lover, sometimes brains rule over heart, but takes partnership very serious.

ho ho ho!

I am sure will laugh at the end of this :D1.jpg2.jpg3.jpg4.jpg5.jpg6.jpg7.jpg

And now comes the explanation for … BLACK goat :-) 


and AIDS! 

People Come into your LIFE for a reason

I got a mail (one of the zillion forwards you get nowadays!). But this one was touching … and thought provoking:

“I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their email. Your response will be interesting.  Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.  They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it, it is real. But only for a season .

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.”

I relate to almost all the lines. Especially over the last 2 years when I was on a emotional rollercoaster … definitely I should say this: thank you all!

Face your difficulties

Swami Vivekananda:

Arrow goes forward only after pulling in backward.
Bullet goes forward only after pressing the Trigger backward …
Every human being wil get happy only after facing the difficulties in their path … So, don’t be afraid to face your difficulties.

They will push you forward.

nude collage

My mind goes … wow! hmmmm woo … wow! amazing .. kewl! hot ….The image is raw and powerful. Creativity and emotional thoughts come jutting out. Sensousness is cut down to the lowest level. Its just how its presented here! Go here for the real source (flickr as usual)! You can see the collage starts with female body on the left and ends with male body on the right. The black and white tones are diverse. The lighting moods drastic and soft. I just love how some of the images are raw and yet some very subtle. In short the contrast and the dual nature in the one package (circular presentation) is the clincher here! i.e Bipolarity = beauty = creativity