I had gotten this lovely forward from a friend of mine (Vini). An amazing person who did make difference in my life over the past two years. One cool i liked about her – she used to have the signature in all her emails "Life is beautiful" and her voice box always said – ' .. blah blah … and yeah, remember life is beautiful. have a nice day!" Was clearing my inbox and came across this starred email – a forward she had sent me. thought will put it in the immortal walls of the virtual world!
A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midstof all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enoughfighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back yourtears and begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something tochange, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon. You realize that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with
you… and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are… andthat's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself… and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they didto you – or didn't do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean whatthey say and that not everyone will always be there for you and thateverything isn't always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself… and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept peopleas they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties… and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born offorgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. Youbegin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin todiscard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never havebought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" lookingfor your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not theoutdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to savethe world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as youwould have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and theimportance of setting boundaries and learning to say "NO." You alsostop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care forit and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinkmore water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and soyou take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughterfuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believeyou deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward makingit happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success
you need direction, discipline and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to risk asking for help. You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself.
You learn to step right into and through your fears because you knowthat whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under acloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people… and you learn not to always take it personally. You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't alwayssomebody's fault. It's just life happening.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead ofwalls. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentmentmust be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simplethings we take for granted, things that millions of people upon theearth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself andyou make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, eversettle for less than your heart's desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stayopen to every wonderful possibility. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to thewind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.
Well, I think I have learnt most of the things and a few i may disagree … a very few. may be i will change. But just think … they will be words to revisit again sometime this year!