grief talk …

searched for a bunch of quotes on the net. Read a lot of poetry on death, living, mourning, grief, courage and moving on today. Here is my collated rain drops (my cloud you know!) … its lots of quotes in no particular order. Well spent a good 3 to 4 hours digging them – felt therapeutic – an emotional mood stabilizer for my bipolar state of mind I guess :-)!

And we wept that one so lovely should have a life so brief; – William Cullen Bryant

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. – King Whitney, Jr.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. –From a headstone in Ireland

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. – Kahlil Gibran

Grief remains one of the few things that has the power to silence us. It is a whisper in the world and a clamor within. More than sex, more than faith, even more than its usher death, grief is unspoken, publicly ignored except for those moments at the funeral that are over too quickly, or the conversations among the cognoscenti, those of us who recognize in one another a kindred chasm deep in the center of who we are. – Anna Quindlen

…when we finally know we are dying, and all other sentient beings are dying with us, we start to have a burning, almost heartbreaking sense of the fragility and preciousness of each moment and each being, and from this can grow a deep, clear, limitless compassion for all beings.” – Sogyal Rinpoche

Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean. – David Searls

When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced.
Live you life in a manner so that when you die the world cries and you rejoice. – Native American Proverb

There is but one freedom,
To put oneself right with death.
After that everything is possible.
I cannot force you to believe in God.
Believing in God amounts to coming
to terms with death. When you have
accepted death, the problem of God
will be solved–and not the reverse. – Camus, Albert

It is not length of life, but depth of life. – Emerson, Ralph Waldo (1803-1882)

It is foolish and wrong to mourn the men who died. Rather we should thank God that such men lived. – George S. Patton, Jr.

If you learn from your suffering, and really come to
understand the lesson you were taught,
you might be able to help someone else
who’s now in the phase you may have just completed.
Maybe that’s what it’s all about after all… – Anonymous

Death— the last sleep? No the final awakening.- Walter Scott

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. – Norman Cousins

Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death. – Anonymous

You think you’re the only guy that ever got a kick in the teeth? Well you’re not. It’s happening every day and it’s gonna keep right on happenin’ till this thing’s over. And you, you can sit here and feel sorry for yourself, or you can come on out with me and see how nice people are when they’re alive. – Dalton Trumbo

There is a feeling of loyalty to her which seems to compel me to indulge in mournful thoughts. Do not mistake. Relief is coming. I am more like myself—more hopeful. – Rutherford Birchard Hayes

Who’ll be chief mourner?
I, said the dove,
I’ll mourn for my love,
I’ll be chief mourner. – Mother Goose

No longer mourn for me when I am dead
Than you shall hear the surly sullen bell
Give warning to the world that I am fled
From this vile world, with vilest worms to dwell:
Nay, if you read this line, remember not
The hand that writ it; for I love you so,
That I in your sweet thoughts would be forgot,
If thinking on me then should make you woe. – William Shakespeare

Now rest in peace, our patriot band;
Though far from nature’s limits thrown,
We trust they find a happier land,
A brighter sunshine of their own. – Philip Freneau

I went into the kitchen and got halfway to the phone before I realized that I couldn’t call her…. A lot of people who lost a mother or father or husband or wife will tell you that they find themselves almost talking out loud. I do that a lot. – Bill ClintonAlthough I could lament in the language and feelings of David for Absalom, I am constrained to say, peace to his manes. Let us weep for the living, and not for the dead. – Andrew Jackson

Mourning is not forgetting… It is an undoing. Every minute tie has to be untied and something permanent and valuable recovered and assimilated from the dust.- Margery Allingham

For years I have been mourning and not for my dead, it is for this boy for whatever corner in my heart died when his childhood slid out of my arms. – William Gibson

I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. – Anne Morrow Lindbergh

You do not see the river of mourning because it lacks one tear of your own. – Antonio Porchia

After that I could never pass a dead man without stopping to gaze on his face, stripped by death of that earthly patina which masks the living soul. And I would ask, who were you? Where was your home? Who is mourning for you now? – Ernst Toller

. . . A widow bird sat mourning for her love
Upon a wintry bough;
The frozen wind crept on above,
The freezing stream below. – Percy Bysshe Shelley

It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… and everything collapses. – ColetteMan, when he does not grieve, hardly exists. – Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943, translated from Spanish by W.S. Merwin

Sorrow makes us all children again – destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

No one can keep his griefs in their prime; they use themselves up. – E.M. Cioran

Grief is a species of idleness. – Samuel Johnson

We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. – Kenji Miyazawa

Memory is a way of holding onto the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose. – From the television show The Wonder Years

If you’re going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill

Time is a physician that heals every grief. – Diphilus

The deep pain that is felt at the death of every friendly soul arises from the feeling that there is in every individual something which is inexpressible, peculiar to him alone, and is, therefore, absolutely and irretrievably lost. – Arthur Schopenhauer

Courage is being afraid but going on anyhow. – Dan Rather

You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. – Jan Glidewell

Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. – Anonymous

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go. – Anonymous

If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble. – Moliere

Had I but died an hour before this chance,
I had lived a blessed time; for from this instant
There’s nothing serious in mortality.
All is but toys; renown and grace is dead,
The wine of life is drawn, and the mere lees
Is left this vault to brag of. – William Shakespeare , in Macbeth, act 2, sc. 3, l. 91-6. “Chance” means mischance, meaning the killing of Duncan; life (”mortality”) from henceforth is trivial (”toys”); the “vault” is the sky covering the earth.

Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature’s delight. – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it. – Jacques Prévert

The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep. – Henry Maudsley

Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He’s going to be up all night anyway. – Mary C. Crowley

She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharper in her thoughts. – George Eliot

Fear no more the frown o’ th’ great,
Thou art past the tyrant’s stroke;
Care no more to clothe and eat,
To thee the reed is as the oak.
The sceptre, learning, physic, must
All follow this and come to dust. – William Shakespeare

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My life - BREESY! :-) :D Beautiful Random Enjoyable Eventful Simple Yellow Places I have lived (chronological): (country) (- state) (-- city) India - (Orissa) -- Cuttack (2yrs) -- Bhubaneshwar (3yrs) - (Maharastra) -- Bombay/Mumbai (8 + 1 yrs) - (TamilNadu) -- Madras/Chennai (6 yrs) - (Pondicherry) (1 yr) United States - (California) -- Berkeley (3 yrs) Education : IIT Madras 02, UC Berkeley 05 Work Experience: Mechanical Engineer at FORD Motor Company, India; Management Trainee at Datamatics Technologies Ltd.; Wireless Programmer at TeleCommunication Systems Inc. Passions (currently as of Dec 2005): Family, Media (visual / audio), Mobile Systems, Internet, Design Interests: Music, Movies, Photography, Enjoying nature, Playing Violin, Graphics, Business / Entrepreneurship / Managments, Spirituality, Design, Technology, Mobile / Wireless

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