As it happens to lot of Indian in their mid 20s, parental pressure starts once you hit 25 and you see all your friends and cousins in the same age bracket getting married, settling down and having kids! Though the desire remains to do all that, I am sure we all feel marriage is something that should just happen and force yourself into. After two back to back breakups from my side this year I thought a lot in terms of what be so called guidelines I intuitively look before asking someone out / consider them seriously!
Was seated outside the doctor’s office to show my broken finger due to the accident (4 weeks over finally!) and I used the time to make the list of qualities I think look in a prospective partner:
- Ability to Love & care abundantly (would be good if unconditional ;P)
- Moderately attractive (to me) and Good Looking
- Active, Talkative, Intellectual and Energetic
- Understand and Appreciate Technology/Science
- Artist in some sense
- Career wise: Have total focus or be LOST (like me 😉 !) and flexible to do different things that one enjoys
I am basically viewing married life as honey-bee colony i.e complexity science. Basic rules / guidelines and let the magic flow. And yeah, effort is need to make the relationship work with constant adaptations to changing aspirations, expectations and perspective for the person, couple, immediate family and the society!
Of course, exceptions always remain for the rules, the chemicals in the brains are hardly ever predictable 🙂 Guess, this year didn’t turn out to be that great – here’s hoping for the coming year to be a lovely experience …
All the best to the Singles and looking category …